- All children will show challenging behaviours at some time or another, especially when they are young. This is normal – see box.
- When the disruptive behaviour is present for many months and is consistently associated with breaking family or school rules by lying, stealing, bullying, fighting or not attending school or workplace, then this is a mental health problem.
- Encourage families to regularly spend time on activities which both the child and parent enjoy.
The most common underlying cause of this problem is domestic abuse, which may or may not be directed at the child (they may witness it instead) and be a cause of inconsistent parental discipline. Hyperactivity (ADHD), intellectual disability and dyslexia are among other causes (see Where There is no Psychiatrist chapter 11).
Practising simple ways of encouraging positive behaviour and encouraging parent–child contracts on acceptable behaviours are the key methods of dealing with this problem.
Medication has no role except to treat underlying causes.